What is up with all these "empowered" women talking shit on girls like me? What is inherently wrong with a little jealousy, a little cling? What's wrong with genuinely appreciating something shiny? I see a lot of people write in blogs or on message boards:
I would be so mad if my boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife got me jewelry for Valentine's Day/my birthday/Christmahanukwanzaa. I want something practical like an oil change or a blender!
What the fuck? I firmly believe that you should be grateful for any gift received from your partner, so why the fuck would you be mad? I can think of plenty of gifts I wouldn't mind receiving.
Am I really a vapid cow for appreciating the romance of jewelry? I don't think so. Do I expect jewelry every time? No. Do I expect expensive jewelry? No.
I am a gift giver. I gave my boyfriend an expensive gift for Valentine's Day. He got me a card and chocolates. I loved it, especially because I hate Twilight and he got me Twilight themed chocolates. Get it? I thought it was cute, anyway. Was I mad that he went the traditional route? No way! I wasn't even expecting THAT much!
I come across the same attitude when it comes to compliments. Strong women don't need compliments, huh? Really? I'm sick of getting looked at like I'm some needy bitch because I want my boyfriend to compliment me every day. Does he have to put me on a pedestal? Absolutely not. I want to be loved and respected, not worshiped. I don't see anything wrong, however, with "You look pretty today" or "That was a funny story."
Seriously, I get it all the time, "You're just like all the other girls. All you want is money."
I like video games and the internet, and staying home and eating takeout. I'm very intelligent and I love to read. I'd rather go for a walk by the lake than go see a movie most of the time.
Just because I think jewelry is romantic and romance shouldn't die, doesn't mean I'm not a strong, independent, intelligent woman.
tl;dr?
Love and shiny things are good. Being a judgmental prick? Bad.
I'm not a fan of Valentines day, never have been. My husband and I don't celebrate it but that's mainly because our Anniversary is 2 days before. However, I would never be so retarded as to tell you that you're "a spoiled, asinine woman" just because you do celebrate it. That's a pathetic way of making your friend feel like she's right and you're wrong.
ReplyDeleteWhatever woman told you they don't need compliments, in my opinion, is a liar. Every woman needs to be told once in a while that they're beauitful/sexy/etc.
Valentine's Day and I have had a love/hate relationship.
ReplyDeleteThat being said... I'm never going to turn down something shiny, and I'm a jeans and tee-shirt, independent kind of girl.
I think it's so cliche how all these "empowered women" bitch and moan about V-day. If you don't like it, just don't participate. You don't need to bash anyone who is enjoying them self. Besides, if you're in a relationship, you SHOULD be complimented every day. A smart woman wouldn't settle for less than that.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. It's become almost cult-like for women to bash V-day because they secretly feel sorry for themselves. Found you on 20sb. Love the post.
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